True Love Is One Sided And Unconditional

True Love Is One Sided And So Unconditional

(Love and Lust)

By: Utkarsh

Hello everyone, today I will be presenting my views on “The True Love”, which is always one-sided and so unconditional. So let’s understand, what am I wants to present before you all and how am I think on this beautiful topic. Also I would be discussing some points on lust.

Do you know, from where does this world Love, that is प्रेम  in hindi had came from? It is derived from the word परम, which means highest, supreme,  above which nothing is there. We have to be calm, slow, joyful to observe and understand what the love is. We can never understand it in hurry, neither it is done nor you can force anyone to do. Love just happens. 

There are three ways of experiencing the true love, those are given below.

• Either you only think about the II^nd  person to whom you are mentally attached.
• Or you only think about you, even you can see yourself in her.
• And last but not the least, neither I am there, nor you are there, there is no one.

Now, let's understand the first case. When we feel happy, thinking about that II^nd  person, to whom we are mentally attached, we start feeling happy. Why mentally attached, because our neurons start releasing 'norepinephrine', 'dopamine', 'serotonin' or might be 'oxytocin' in some cases. We start thinking only and only about the person, whom we love or the one, who is our beloved. To understand it, let me place an example here and make it more comfortable to explain it to you.

There is light travelling everywhere, even in between the sun and the earth.The universe is dark. Unless and until the white-light did not fall on any object and either bounces back in our eyes or causes any reflection, we would be unable to see that white-light or even the object. It means the life of light is itself in the dark until and

unless it did not fall on any object and bounces and back to form image in our brain with the help of eyes. Now, assume yourself as light and the object on which you fall and which made you visible as the one, whom you love. So, now, you will praise the object that means the second person, who made you visible and so there is only 'she' everywhere and you are mentally as well as emotionally attached with her.

Let's move to second case, in which we only thinks about ourselves, neither it is an egotistic statement nor it is selfishness. In this we are able to see our self in the beloved, it is as simple as when you either keep two cameras facing towards each other or when you see yourself in the mirror, so you will be you but the mirror is the 'she', I hope you got it.

For example, light loves rainbow, you might be thinking how? Let understand it. What is rainbow? Rainbow is the light dispersed by natural spectrum, rain droplets and is visible in the presence of light. Now, some of you will pop up the question of 'moonbow', so for your kind information, it is also visible only if there is moonlight available at night.

In third case, where there is neither I, myself nor you, my beloved. This is the highest level of love. " Where there is competition, there is me and you but when you are in the highest level of love, neither there is you nor there is your beloved".

"Love is the phenomenon, which happens in present, If it is not happening in present, there is no love."  Love is not limited to a single person, instead it start happening from a single person but goes furthest, when you start loving someone, you start developing a cool - loving nature for every living being, especially for human beings. You start loving to someone on the basis of how you have raised in your childhood, it is directly proportional to what you had watched on screen and what you had listened since you were just a kid even for yourself and was in pre-adolescence.

People, often confuse in between 'friendship and lust', let me explain you this as well. According to me, friendship is the state of mind in which you feel good or comfortable with others, with whom you have good tuning. Friendship can be with girls, boys, juniors, seniors, teachers, etc. Friendship is a

kind of mutual or common sharing of lower or middle level of love. In this covalent bonds are formed, which are always stronger than ionic bonds. Till there is friendship, everything will happen good, your life will be running smooth, in the same way like a refined-diesel engine works.

When your friendship which was lower to middle level of covalent bond love changes or transforms into ionic bond of love, and when you come into a physical relationship for strong sexual desire and the release of oxytocin are high, than the term 'lust' is more suitable in these conditions. And as conditions came here, so it will no longer be a 'unconditional love' and so it won't be true as well. 

Do you know, why the true love is one sided? I don't think, you would be knowing because even I came to know today. Read the next paragraph completely and try to understand it. Even I will try to  express in more simpler ways.

When people are in love and when they had courage and has expressed their love with each other than they start making rules and regulations which if observed practically can never be followed. They want that there should be hundred percent contact between them and their beloved ones should not talk or share anything with other of opposite sex. In simple, if there is love between a boy and girl than the girl would wish that her friend should not talk or have friendship with other girls, the sharing should be limited only to them and no else, specially girls should be praised by him. So, these are some below-standard mentality which is out of my brain. 

If I observe this practically and according to my experience, even the two person have love, they surely will not be just limited to one other, instead, they will share the love in the form of electron with others always due to human-nature and will form the covalent bond again. Now, it depends on the rules and limitations as well as the mentality of their friend, whether they have to tell about this bond to them or not, hiding it from him. Which will later bring faults and cracks in the building of love. 

So this proves that, one sided love is the best, trustworthy and true love. There is no term like two-sided love, and where it is two-sided, there is not unconditional love, it means, 'true love, one sided and unconditional are dependent on each other and are directly proportional'.

Something, which I learned today is given below.

"Never dream with eyes closed because dreams are made to break, All you can do is to think as high as possible because you perform what you think!"

Thank you.
Feeling happy after sharing.
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